A Ventography!

Just two moms letting off some steam



I have a good friend who tried to get me to watch Parenthood for the longest time. I refused for two reasons. One, I knew the boy on the show has Asperger’s Syndrome and I thought that wouldn’t be anything like what I was experiencing at my house so why bother? Two, I figured the show would do a horrendous job of portraying what life is like with a special needs child and it would just annoy me.


My friend wouldn’t relent so I finally gave in and watched the show and surprise, surprise, I am now a loyal weekly viewer of Parenthood.

For me, it wouldn’t matter whether the boy has Asperger’s, Down’s Syndrome, Cerebral Palsy, or whatever. I like the show because it realistically portrays that being the parent of a child with any sort of special needs brings a whole other set of issues. Not knocking them, but parents of typical children simply can’t relate. The show has covered:

  • how every holiday requires lots of behind the scenes preparation from us parents… prepping family members, practicing social scripts, making special food, etc.
  • how days that are usually joyous for parents of typical children (like the first day of school) are nerve-racking and anxiety provoking for us.
  • how learning that you are pregnant again can send you over the edge because you don’t know if you could find the inner strength to fight this battle for another child if the child also has special needs.
  • how family members, who have the best of intentions, are uncomfortable around the child and simply don’t know what to do or say much of the time.
I wish that viewing Parenthood was a requirement for mainstream America. It would do so much to help our friends and family relate to what our lives are like. In real life, our inner thoughts and emotions are not on display. But in Parenthood, you get to see the “behind the scenes” emotions of these parents. It could help mainstream America “feel the feeling” and truly relate to what we go through on a daily basis.


You can turn off a tv show, but you can’t turn off the worries of being a parent of a child with special needs.

If you would like to read an interview with the actor who portrays Max on the show, please go to:

Author: A Ventography!

A Ventography is about: 1. Encouraging and empathizing with other parents on the autism spectrum. 2. Recycling and simplifying information on the latest autism news and health and diet tips. 3. Asking thought provoking questions designed to make us rethink what we've been told about autism. 4. Helping connect the dots that show, in some cases, autism is more than a brain disorder. 5. Challenging parents to rethink what they've been told, refuse the status quo, and escape the whirlwind of confusion.


  1. I started watching it because I heard it was a good show but didn’t know about Max. I actually got season 2 because it was on sale for $10 at Target. I came home watched half of season 2 and went back the same night to buy season 1 & watch season 3 faithfully.

    I love it because it shows a REAL perspective not hollywoods perspective. I wish every person who was a big part of Aiden’s life would watch it. I feel like the way they interact with him, think about him, everything would be a lot different.


    • So glad someone out there loves Parenthood as much as me! Leah will not watch it so I have nobody to talk with about the show. Maybe I will get her the DVD from Target and guilt her into watching it! I agree with you 100% that if our friends and family were to watch the show their interactions with our children would be better… they would try harder and be more understanding of us too! Thanks so much for your feedback.


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